What do You Want to talk About?

July 25, 2012

The Journey Continues….

We could easily spend several months writing on the “how does God talk to us, and why am I having a hard time hearing Him…” conversation.  I hope we have at least gotten most of us over that hurdle, so that we can move on.  I also hope that I at least pointed you to some resources that can help further.  But we need to get on to the question, “What does God want to talk to us about.”

Again, the set up for our “stuck-ness” is an interplay between our circumstances, our soul, and the spiritual realm.  So watch for these same elements on the journey to freedom.

The kind of things that God brings up in conversation are almost always surprising, and
yet amazingly insightful Go back and look at the comment from Josiah C, on “The way Out” (two posts ago.  He provides us with excellent examples of what appears to be God changing the subject.  The reality is, it is we who are not familiar with our subject.  Often God wants to talk to us about the specifics of our own personal set-up. I have seen countless times where people are completely taken by surprise at the moments, memories, or relationships that God brings to mind.  But once we examine the lie that was believed, and the defenses that were implemented it begins to make perfect sense.  More than making sense, it often produces the very change we have been seeking.

Carl Jung has been quoted as saying that most human suffering comes from our attempts to avoid legitimate suffering.  This is his way, (and yes, I did just quote Jung….) of saying that our solutions can quickly become worse than our problems.

When talking to an alcoholic, what do you think their problem is?

More often than not, we think the problem is alcohol.  I would submit that the problem is actually pain.  Alcohol is simply a bad solution, or an attempt to avoid the legitimate suffering of life circumstances.  So if you wee to ask God to talk to someone struggling with addiction, what do you think He would talk about?

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Talking about the symptom usually produces shame and frustration, so God usually does not talk about the symptom.

Talking about the root problem may or may not be helpful.  Knowing the diagnosis does not always equal treatment. So God often does not want to talk about root problems.

Talking about positive things can often simply provoke unconscious defenses when we have believed negative things. So God seldom gives pep talks.

If God talks about Himself and how He feels about you, it can provide safety, nurture, and power in the midst of our fear and powerlessness.

If God tells you what He made to be true about you, it begins to make you feel safe, and loved.  Feeling safe and loved allows us to begin to drop our protections.

Problems can actually go away when we see and hear God talk about His Nature, His Love for us, and how He made us.

What do you think God wants to talk about?


  • http://www.journey-to-beauty.com Alex

    Loved this post and I’m forwarding it on. My favorite quote, “Talking about positive things can often simply provoke unconscious defenses when we have believed negative things. So God seldom gives pep talks.
    If God talks about Himself and how He feels about you, it can provide safety, nurture, and power in the midst of our fear and powerlessness”

  • http://iansterscorner.wordpress.com ian hamp

    this is a revelation to ians mind and his heart

  • David

    Starting to see says the spiritually blind man!

  • http://www.josiahsolis.com Josiah Solis

    I’m just amazed you found a place to quote Carl Jung…and I’m amazed I actually know who that it :)

  • http://www.freshavacados.wordpress.com Sarah Dicus

    I think I’ve read that Jung quote somewhere before…. ;)
    Love this post. Thank you very much!

  • http://www.lifeisgoodnicole.blogspot.com Nicole Graves

    Thank you so much for the reminder to BE STILL. Even in my time with Him, I can busy myself…sometimes bc of fear of what He might speak. Today was good and a very good exercise for me to listen!

  • Josiah C

    “If God tells you what He made to be true about you, it begins to make you feel safe, and loved. Feeling safe and loved allows us to begin to drop our protections.”

    When we’re dealing with a flaw in our life, it seems we tend toward either using pride and vanity (puffing up) or we turn to guilt and despair (deflating). Both are just using air, nothing of substance. But the breath of God, that IS something, as you mention so many times, when He speaks, it has in it that which is the power to make it happen. Totally digging this volume of your posts! Thanks for the shout-out ;)

  • chuck

    Whenever God talks, He creates. Unquestionably. His thinking changes the course of our life by the way He speaks people, places, events from his lips and into the tapestry of our life. From the invisible to the visible. From the supernatural to….yeah, we live the supernatural. After all, He is here. He is here. Thanks, Bob.

  • Marissa Star

    Love this so much. My heart smiles as I find myself grateful the sidewalk never ends with God nor the conversations to be had, where new things are to be revealed, healed, overcome all adding beautiful miles to our lives we’ve walked with a God that likes talking to us. Love simple and profound truths, you do a great job of making God not hard.

  • BMarie

    LOVE this.

  • Shirley Stephens

    Thanks Bob!  It always helps to look at the whole picture.  God is such a kind Father.  The more you know Him the more you love Him!

  • Ted Crawford

    God has been showing me how harmful our self-contrived “coping mechanisms” are. He wants to replace ours with His; an intimate, loving, trusting relationship with Him. This is not as easy as I first thought, because of all my favorite “junk” I have to leave behind. My response is a lot like Linus’ in the Peanuts comic strip. After reading the list of his flaws that his sister Lucy gave him, he responds, “These aren’t flaws, these are character traits!”. Point: I must embrace God’s way of defining me and abandon mine, which is dysfunctional, dangerous, and way too cluttered. I make it harder than it really is.

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  • Roseamorgan12

    I think God wants to talk about the reality of the war that is being fought and the passion of His heart, so that we will “catch the vision” and use the keys and weapons He has given us to overcome all obstacles, defeat the enemy and begin partaking of our inheritance with Jesus and in Jesus. When we catch His vision, wjen we turn our eyes upon Jesus, all the things that try to hold us down and keep us captive become strangely dim and powerless. It is in Him that we are truly FREE.

  • tammy

    and where in the bible did you find your information? people, quit following man and read the scripture to find out what God thinks about you. i beg you!