Thinking Like Parents

Posted on August 25, 2009

For much of our lives as Christians we view Jesus and the Cross as a way to give us access to God.  When we need forgiveness we find it through the cross.  When we need comfort, we find it through the cross.  When we need healing…well you get the idea.

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Anyone see an immediate concern here?  The phrase “we need” seems to be the organizing factor here.

For the longest time, as a counselor, I treated Christianity as the best self-help program available.  You can see why.  It works. And Jesus invites people with needs.  And of course we all approach life through our current circumstances and lenses.  So when we have needs, we see Jesus as the Great Meeter of our needs.  Be careful.  This subtle perception puts you and I at the center of the universe, and imagines God subservient to our needs.

Like children who think that their parents exist to fix their bike, or pay their traffic ticket, we may have a skewed view of reality if we think like children.

Parents understand that the marriage is the centerpiece of the family, and when it functions this way, it is to the childrens advantage.  When children become the center of the family it is destructive to the family, to the children, and to the marriage.  Children benefit from a strong marriage, but they are not the center.

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We benefit from the cross, but we are not the center.

Remember, Jesus is the Lamb, slain before the foundations of the world.  You and I did not exist yet.  The Cross, Jesus death and resurrection, exist for God to complete His plan.  The Cross is the Ultimate Expression of Ultimate Love.  We benefit greatly from this but we are not the center.

You will be amazed at how everything re-orients when The Trinity becomes the center of your life.  Of course if you do so because you expect it to make your life work better, you still have not really put God at the center.  When you truly make Him the center, it will matter less to you how things turn out.  Isn’t that better?


  • Genwhirl

    This is one of my favorite posts so far. =)

  • Alex

    What a blessing this entry is! I think it might be my favorite yet. Keep on blogging friend.

  • Mary Jo Pierce

    Better to Best! The cross and the character of Father – an unending revelation. Thanks Bob, for this nugget that can transform us!