Father of the Bride

Posted on June 14, 2010

I am standing in the grass in the beautifully groomed yard, with my daughter next to me wearing the dress of her dreams and tugging my arm eagerly.  She is twenty, and she is five. She is a woman, and she is a girl.Either way she is beautiful and she cannot wait to step out and turn the corner.

At the end of this short walk is the man of her dreams.  They have not seen each other all day, and they have waited almost two years to taste the warm satisfaction of a first kiss.  Did I mention she is tugging at my arm eagerly?

Twenty four hours earlier we had stood in this spot to rehearse the order and structure of this short walk and this huge step.  The atmosphere was joyful and fun.  The bride and groom-to-be couldn’t keep their eyes off each other.  And I couldn’t help but notice.

I began to consider the miles of distance covered by this short walk down the aisle.  And then it hit me.

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I have played almost every role possible in a wedding.  I have been a groom, and I have been a musician.  I have been a groomsmen, a best man, a casual attender and I have been the preacher.  I have pronounced a few “man and wife” in my recent years.

In all these roles I have been increasingly taken with the beautiful picture God has given us in the wedding ceremony and all it’s ritual.  And especially recently I have enjoyed the breathless anticipation and final arrival of the Bride.  Everyone stands, and the picture of Jesus united with His bride is played out in the hearts of another man and wife.

But these twenty-four hours I was playing a brand new role.  At the rehearsal I stood by the side of the much-anticipated, well prepared, radiant bride.  I hugged her a lot.  I just felt like it.  I held her back when it wasn’t time, and I walked when it was.  As we practiced walking the aisle together I found myself whispering in her ears.  I whispered thoughts about her life, and thoughts about tomorrows ceremony.   I told her how proud I was and how beautiful she looked.  I told her some things to expect and how to think about these things.  I liked it.  I could guide her one more time.

The next night arrived and we stood in the same spot.  Her dress was beautiful and her mind was on her groom.  I hugged her a lot.  I just felt like it.  She talked eagerly of the next few moments.  This was a moment I had always seen from the other side.  The bride was about to be revealed.  And I was bringing her from here to him.

I realized at that moment, that, although my title was father, I was playing a role I had not seen in this oft-repeated ceremony.  In the same way that the anticipation of the bride and groom, and eventual union represented Jesus and His bride, it was my job to walk by her side and guide her until they were together at last.  It was my job to whisper in her ear and help her to navigate the path from out-of-sight to in-his-arms.  It was my job to hug her a lot.

Jesus said to His disciples, “I am going away and I will prepare for you a place”  this statement was a part of the marriage ritual of a young Jewish boy.  Chapters later Jesus said this. “I am going to send you another comforter”.  In essence He was describing the coming of the Holy Spirit, the on-earth presence of God, walking along side of us and whispering in our ears.   He was telling us that someone would walk us from here to there.  He sent someone to walk us down the aisle until we arrive at the side of the Bridegroom.  I think He feels like hugging us more than we realize.  I did.


  • Barry Garrett

    wow! yeah, just… wow!

  • This is such an amazing picture of the Holy Spirit! Yuri and I were sad to miss the wedding … but I felt like I got to live a little moment through your words and then get a little of my Daddy God’s heart for me! Big fan of how He comes across in your words.

    Thanks!
    ~Ris

  • Amy

    absolutely beautiful!!!!

  • Julie

    Beautifully put, hard to imagine if you never had a dad like that but grateful that I do have a Father that walks intimately with me.

  • HE is good, and all-powerful, yet HIS sweetness and HIS meekness stand out so much through HIS revelations to us. Congrats Bob.

    Coach Larry Clay

  • I felt like I was being hugged while reading the whole thing. Thank you…

  • Jon Paul Dennis

    wonderful observation… thank you…

  • Maree Socha

    Wow!! Tears streaming down my face as I’m reading this! Such a perfect picture of the bride being lead by the Holy Spirit.This was very inspirational. Thank you for sharing your heart!
    …………..She was a beautiful bride!:)
    ~Maree

  • al

    Awesome post! What a beautiful picture of the Holy Spirit!

  • Tanna

    All I can say is WOW!!! No words for the emotions! Love you all

  • Qiana Harrison

    OK, I get it with the hugging already. Lol This is beautiful.

  • Tracey

    I love this Bob!

  • Tamara Garrett

    Bob, this is really beautiful and is very timely in that your daughter got married last Friday night, Robert’s daughter is getting married this Friday night, and my fiance, John Stevens, and I are getting married next Friday night. We have learned so much from you and the freedom ministry classes and Alan Smith will be marrying us in just 10 days. Thank you so much for seeing your destiny and being obedient to the Holy Spirit, you have impacted many lives, including ours, in a tremendous way.

  • Love it! Plus, you give great hugs!

  • Lara

    Bob, this is an exceptionally beautiful post yet there is something more here – richness, succulence, arrival, culmination, completion – that is really speaking to my heart. It calls to me and I find myself running to answer.
    Thank you for being you and graciously sharing the wisdom you find along the way.
    Lara

  • Cheri Cochran

    Okay, so this is the first time I’ve ever teared up from reading a blog. 🙂 Beautiful.

  • this blog will make me gonna in my sleep

  • it wil make make cry in mysleep

  • Sweet memories… Sweeter still that God is always talking, revealing and showing us about Himself if we just look for it.

    Loved being there joining in and watching your family celebrate this occasion. Thank you for inviting us to be a part of the memories. It was gloriously beautiful to behold then and now. Blessings.

  • that was beautiful.

  • Well, I’m crying now. I’m so needy and desperate for those hugs.

    Come thou fount of every blessing; Tune my heart to… feel Thy hugs?